Recently, I came across two news articles about fatherhood I’d like to share with you all on this special day. For those who are fans of Troy, remember Hector (starred by Eric Bana) or Henry, the husband of Clare (starred by Rachel McAdams) in The Time Traveller’s Wife? The Daily Mail reports that Eric Bana recently told The Daily Telegraph that fatherhood is “the best job” he has. Not only is it the best, but it’s rewarding, too, and that’s telling the whole world he puts his family before Hollywood: “It’s worth every bit of energy you put into it” he says.
Isn’t that heart-warming? Big thumbs up to all the fathers who invest time with their children by being around them often to offer a sense of security and giving sound advice when the going gets tough.
The second story is about a father who learned how difficult it is to be a full-time mum when his wife became diagnosed with liver failure. Kearns, the father who created the Facebook page “DadMum life” shares with the world how exhausting he finds single parenting to be. While his wife battles in the hospital, he struggles to maintain the peace at home with his two sons. He feels defeated after the first sixteen hours (The Telegraph).
Kearns’ experience reminds me of my father.
My father is a hard-working man, who, despite carrying the burden of providing food and shelter to a family of four, never shied away from helping out with the mundane house chores of doing the laundry or taking out the trash or even helping with buying groceries. When my mother fell ill soon after her diagnosis of late stage lung cancer, my father took over the grunt work of housekeeping on top of his day-time job. He did everything without complaining and remained positive and cheery until the very end. It was through this tremendous change of responsibilities, witnessing his patience, perseverance, and hopefulness and ultimately his unconditional love for my mother that left me in awe at how anyone could accomplish what seemed impossible to me.
His busy job didn’t prevent him from visiting my mum daily at the hospital. Sometimes my mum would send him out to get her take outs from restaurants because of her lack of appetite for hospital food. But, when the meal arrived, my mum could only take a few bites and returned back to sleep. Despite this, my father didn’t get upset or impatient. The most difficult part in my mum’s battle with cancer was seeing her in pain and trying to turn away when my father teared at the excruciating pain from the loss of his beloved at my mother’s funeral.
On this special day, I would like to say a big thank you to my dearest father and how much I look up to him as my source of encouragement and support, through good times and the bad. Lately, I’ve been getting my dad gifts to make his desk work more comfortable. A few months ago I suggested an ergonomic computer chair. Since my dad wears prescription glasses, I’m concerned about the long hours he puts in his work, typing away on his laptop. It’s my duty to take care of his eyes now. Maybe I’ll look into a desk lamp with LED lighting technology for energy savings that would also allow my dad to read comfortably off screens due to their ability to reduce glare.